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So, you’d like to be rich?

So, you’d like to be rich?

I hear you!  Like many, the lure of ‘enough’ in the bank is strong.  And ‘more than enough’ is even better!  That’s rich!!  But if you’re living in a developed nation, chances are you’re already wealthy.

Oxfam tells us that just 1% of the world’s population hold 48% of the worlds’ wealth!

But let’s get real, rich and wealthy certainly don’t mean the same thing.

Some might consider wealth as the amount of money you have in the bank, or your net worth when looking at the balance sheet.  But, others consider wealth in its many and varied ‘other forms.’

Do you have a roof over your head that you can afford?  Food available every time you open the pantry or fridge door?  Are you surrounded by happy, healthy loved ones?  Is affordable health care within reach?  Do you have enough, even too much ‘stuff?’  Are you able to afford transport costs, TV, a phone and wifi, along with little luxuries like movies, a night out or special entertainment treats now and then?

Some consider true wealth to be measured by what you have left if you lost your material possessions.  And it happens.  Australia especially is a nation dominated by extremes like floods, famines and fire.

Would you still have a loving family and fulfilling relationships if all else was lost?

From a very young age, marketers have bombarded us into thinking that we never have ‘enough.’  That last year’s fashions, bags, sunnies and possessions are so out of date and that we are continually told we need more… newer and better.  But as many find, striving constantly for the latest, and chasing labels is hardly the key to happiness.

Working out what makes us happy is a huge step forward in unlocking how we can discover wealth.

Do your children’s smiles light you up?  Do you have a hobby you find fulfilling?  Does your faith hold you steady when times are tough?  Is there one friend or partner you always enjoy spending time with that ‘fills your cup?’  Does holding a fulfilling job mean a lot to you?  Chances are when you work out what it is that truly makes you happy, you’ll find you’re pretty wealthy after all.

 

Diana Princess of Wales  “They say it is better to be poor and happy than rich and miserable, but how about a compromise like moderately rich and just moody?”

 

Life is pain, highness…

Life is pain, highness.  Anyone who says differently is selling something.”  Westley.  William Goldman – Princess Bride.

If you’re like me and a bit of a tragic Princess Bride fan, then you’ll be completely familiar with this line, and that some days it rings more true than others.

Lately, it seems the ‘life is pain’ is ringing true a lot more.  I’ve had a mate I love dearly be fitted with a pacemaker and become a double amputee.  His lovey sister has just married the love of her life, who’s been diagnosed with a terminal cancerous mass in his pancreas and one of the most beautiful, bright amazing women in my circle of friends committed suicide last week.  Yes… sometimes life is truly pain.

Today I raised a glass to my girlfriend and spent it with another, remembering her son who died suddenly 11 years ago today.

And it got me thinking, as these times often call for deep personal reflection… Yes, Life is pain, we’ve all been there.  There’s bad minutes, horrid hours, bloody awful days and some really shit moments that make up this tapestry we call life.

But there’s also the beauty.  Sometimes in the darkness, that’s hard to remember.  There’s the unexpected opera in the morning in the hotel I’m staying in that transports me and gives me goosebumps, there’s sunsets to be seen in places I’ve never been, unexpected connections with friends and colleagues and there’s new friends to be made and children to watch grow.

We’ve all suffered unrequited love, difficult emotions and the roller-coaster rides of feelings.  Yet, we’ve also had magical moments in time with friends and lovers and our babies and experienced the beauty of the written word, spoken word and of music, friendship, nature, laughter and tears.

But when someone takes their life, we all think… could I have done more?  Should I have called?  What else could I have done?  So instead of wondering, I beg you, call someone today.  I’m sure you know someone who could use a chat, a laugh a cry or the gift of your time.