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Making an Enlightened Choice

We are faced with choices every day of our lives.  And many choices, every hour of every day…  We have choices about what we say, what we eat, what we think, whether or not to be kind, choices about what we’ll wear, how we’ll invest, what we’ll spend our time or money on and how we’ll respond in certain situations…

Do you try to be ‘mindful’ when making choices?  Do you base your responses on your habits or a conditioned and well thought through response?

You’ve probably noticed that there’s a big difference between an enlightened choice and a reactive choice and we know how much better it feels when we make one over the other.  And how we’re quick to judge or flare up when people respond to us with anger, sarcasm or from a place of fear.

At the risk of sounding a little (or a lot) woo-woo, an enlightened choice is based on being present and choosing something that feels in line with love and kindness, with being who we ultimately want to be. You know, that deep gut feeling you get when something is ‘just right.’  Although often applied to behavioural responses, it can also apply when starting a financial plan that is in line with our goals and works to achieve our outcomes over the long term.

A reactive choice is based on doing what we have always done, on wanting to stay consistent with how we have always been, even when we know that hasn’t served us in the past.  Taking the hot tip from the taxi driver on the latest shares, or jumping into investing in gold because our mate just made a killing doing that, is ‘responsive investing’ and rarely in our best interest.

Today, be really mindful when choices come up for you. Ask yourself, am I making an enlightened choice here or a reactive choice?  And take your time, it’s easy to stay in the habit of our knee-jerk responses and takes effort to learn to wait and think things through before we respond.

Where would you like to start practising mindfulness in your decisions?  With family? Friends? At work?  With our finances?

“Have Courage and be Kind”

Well my teenage daughter went and saw Cinderella with her girlfriends, shed a little tear over the magic and was determined to drag me off and see it for myself.

I wasn’t sure really what to expect.  This is one of those tales that you just don’t remember the first time you heard it, you just always have known the story and grown up with the romance of it. And it’s magical!

Right up til you’re bullied and bitten in kindy and no fairy godmother shows up, or your manic depressive mother drums into you that life isn’t easy, there is no magic, no handsome prince or happy ever after.  A wedding is just dress ups for one day and marriage is shit.  But still, there’s a part of you that hopes, that wants to believe… One day…

I fell in love with Helena Bonham Carter (and her eyebrows) playing a young Serena in a Hazard of Hearts, alongside the very dashing Justin Vulcan of Mandrake (a terrible Barbara Cartland romance that still appealed to my hopeful 16 year old soul) and thought she was a great fairy godmother for Cinderella – I’d have her any day!  And the fact that she’s a wizz at shoes is a definite bonus!

Cate Blanchett, another favourite, is spectacular in taking on the role that ruined life for stepmothers everywhere.  Beautifully elegant, yet bitter and twisted and the reminder that life isn’t always easy.  You can choose to be cruel and manipulative… or not… But it’s Cinderella’s choice, to ‘have courage and be kind’ despite all adversity she’d faced, that is the beautiful theme that shone throughout this movie.

For Cindy, the magic ended at midnight after the ball; life was still more than a drudge but there were choices to be made.  To live in joy with the memories, enjoy the company of friends, and sing, just because you can… or not. And hey, who knows? Some days, things just do go your way!

I do hope her prince doesn’t snore and fart loudly and leave grubby hunting gear and undies on the floor, but if you can be happy in the face of adversity, I guess it’s just as easy to be happy in the palace…