“Life is pain, highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something.” Westley. William Goldman – Princess Bride.
If you’re like me and a bit of a tragic Princess Bride fan, then you’ll be completely familiar with this line, and that some days it rings more true than others.
Lately, it seems the ‘life is pain’ is ringing true a lot more. I’ve had a mate I love dearly be fitted with a pacemaker and become a double amputee. His lovey sister has just married the love of her life, who’s been diagnosed with a terminal cancerous mass in his pancreas and one of the most beautiful, bright amazing women in my circle of friends committed suicide last week. Yes… sometimes life is truly pain.
Today I raised a glass to my girlfriend and spent it with another, remembering her son who died suddenly 11 years ago today.
And it got me thinking, as these times often call for deep personal reflection… Yes, Life is pain, we’ve all been there. There’s bad minutes, horrid hours, bloody awful days and some really shit moments that make up this tapestry we call life.
But there’s also the beauty. Sometimes in the darkness, that’s hard to remember. There’s the unexpected opera in the morning in the hotel I’m staying in that transports me and gives me goosebumps, there’s sunsets to be seen in places I’ve never been, unexpected connections with friends and colleagues and there’s new friends to be made and children to watch grow.
We’ve all suffered unrequited love, difficult emotions and the roller-coaster rides of feelings. Yet, we’ve also had magical moments in time with friends and lovers and our babies and experienced the beauty of the written word, spoken word and of music, friendship, nature, laughter and tears.
But when someone takes their life, we all think… could I have done more? Should I have called? What else could I have done? So instead of wondering, I beg you, call someone today. I’m sure you know someone who could use a chat, a laugh a cry or the gift of your time.