A Touch of the Green Eyed Monster

It’s a pretty human thing to be envious now and then, but what we envy can be pretty different from person to person.

What do you most often find yourself jealous about in others?

Is it their looks, body, career, money, investments, home, their apparent luck, lifestyle, their skill at something specific?  Is it a physical thing?  A financial thing?  A lifestyle thing?

It is worth checking in with yourself as to what it is that triggers your comparison button.  What is it that you really believe you want and don’t feel you have?

It’s pretty courageous to get honest and admit this.

Some of us have a twinge of envy when someone gets amazing news (that we’ve been waiting for) or has a huge win (that would have been soooo handy for us!)   Often, we are still happy for our friends, but the issue can be when it becomes about us in relation to them!

So here’s an opportunity for you!  Get honest and see what it is you most envy in others.  It’s a wonderful way of getting clear on what you most want for yourself.  (Cue light bulb!)

Isn’t it a better idea to instead place your emotional energy into setting a goal for yourself?  Don’t waste it by dealing in the negative energy of jealousy.  Start focusing on how you can make things happen for you!  Is it financial?  Physical?  Set some goals and start kicking!

I’d love to hear what you’ve confessed to and would like to turn around!  Or have you got the lifestyle others envy and still feel you’re missing something?

Suffering from Financial Insecurity?

“Financial Insecurity.”  Don’t worry, it’s not a communicable disease!

Are there parts of your life you feel insecure about as far as money goes?

Do you not know much about shares?  Do you find it hard to understand taxes? Do personal insurances like Income Protection and Life insurance confuse you?  Does the acronym ETF mean anything to you?  How much do your Superannuation savings interest you?

The world of finance can be pretty complicated and our education system certainly doesn’t help us get our head around what’s out there.

Which in turn begs the question:  If you want to learn more, do you know someone who can help you?

You might notice that one of the habits of people who are good with money (or anything for that matter) is that they aren’t afraid to ask for help.  They know what they know and they know what they don’t.  And that’s a gift!

There’s no need to have any shame when it comes to not knowing all there is to know about money.  You aren’t supposed to ‘just know’ how managed funds work, what shares to invest in, when term deposits are the best choice, or what types of investment  products exist… including those mysterious ETF’s!

Do you try and conceal some issues around money that you feel you should know?   Would you like to build up your knowledge repertoire when it comes to money?  Who do you know who could help you?  (This post is starting to sound a lot like 20 questions isn’t it??)

What is reassuring, it that you can build up your confidence as far as questions about money go.

These days, there’s online free courses.  Check out the ASX website.  Ask friends who you believe are savvy with money, or even chat with a financial adviser about what you’d like to learn.  Chances are they can recommend some good reading material for you to start with.  Even the ATO and YouTube have educational information and videos that you can use to start building up your knowledge base.

I’d love to hear what you’ve done to up-skill when it comes to your financial situation.

Never Work a Day in Your Life!

Have you ever heard the expression “Choose a job you love and you’ll never have to work a day in your life?”  This cliché is often attributed to Confucius, tho I’m not convinced, based on the fact that nearly everyone was probably a soldier, merchant or a farmer…

Yet, it is possible to love your work and not even think of it as ‘work,’ a ‘job,’ or a ‘chore.’ I am sure you know at least one person who is doing what they love.

Truth be told, people who do what they love even tend to look a little different. You can pick them out in a crowd. They emanate something special.

And contrary to popular opinion, No, they didn’t have it any easier than you.  What they did was make a decision to start doing what they loved.  And it’s a big step.  A giant leap in fact to let go of security and make a go of something you’ve only ever dreamed about.

Why not ask yourself what you really love that perhaps you never imagined you could turn into a profession or get paid for?  Is there a hobby you love to do on weekends that you could turn into a fantastic living?

If you love hiking, could you lead treks?  If you love writing, can you start a blog?  Or a book?  Are you creative?  Do you have paintings or craft to make a cottage business out of?

I know some people who had a life altering moment in their travels, start doing what they love and they’ve never looked back, happily turning their backs on the big bucks and corporate life to follow their dreams.

What are some small action steps you can take today? Can pick up a relevant book about your favourite topic, do a Google search to learn more, buy the domain name of that business you’ve got planned in your head?  Even ask your friends what they think you should be doing – they know you well and what lights your fire!

Following your dreams may just be easier than you think!

Start the momentum now…

Then, as Oprah phrased it “Find a way to get paid for doing what you love.  Then every pay check will be a bonus!”

Negativity & Wealth

It’s a fact that most of us think negatively about our finances. Possibly almost as much as we think negatively about our health and physical body.

It’s easy to find and focus on what’s wrong, what could be improved, much more so than finding what is working and being grateful for what we do have financially.

Are your basic needs covered? Do you have good food to eat, a roof over your head, a vehicle, means of communication and an income?  Do you know how much better off you are than most people on the planet?

What’s the one thing about your wealth or financial position, that you are focused on in a negative way? Is it your level of income, your outstanding bills, your dingy apartment, the dead-end job?

Complaining about any aspect of your wealth is pointless unless…

1) you can actually change something, and

2) you are prepared to make the effort to do so.

Can you ask for a raise?  Is there another position you can apply for?  Can you focus on bringing down debt rather than winging about it over drinks at the pub?  Can you start to practice gratitude?

The energy of complaining and being negative is never good for our bodies and physical health. Positive people tend to have better overall health, and wealth.

Today, be mindful of how negative you are about some aspect of your financial journey. Try and start reversing the words you use to describe the story you have around it.

Things WILL improve.  I CAN bring down debt. I’m DETERMINED to get a better job.

Try it and see how it works for you.

Come from a place of Abundance

Have you heard that some feel there are 2 styles of different approaches to life:

You can come from Abundance or Scarcity.

Those who think from a place of abundance believe that there are more jobs to be found, more partners to meet, more homes to provide shelter, more money to made, had, invested and earned, more happy people, more opportunities out there to seize, and even more time!  They believe that the more you give, the more you get.  They’re happy to share their knowledge, contacts and compassion.  They are thankful and confident people.

Those who think from a place of scarcity believe there are no more jobs to be had, they’re out of opportunities, there’s no more good partners to be found, and financially things will never get any better.  They avoid risk, view others as being competitors, and the more you give, the more it costs.  They are often suspicious and find it hard to build rapport.  They may be pessimistic about the future and fearful.

Our internal dialogue and who we see ourself to be influences every part of our life.  Our ideas around whether we will find a job, have children, discover a new partner, find a solution to our problem or sort out our financial worries is all influenced by how we feel.

Which camp is your thinking in?  Are you coming from a place of Abundance or Scarcity?

Look around at people you know and work or hang out with. It’s usually pretty obvious to pick out who’s operating from a place of lack or abundance.

Play a game for a week:  review some of the thoughts you’ve had or the decisions you’ve made, see where the thinking was based.

Start training your mind to see abundance in everything, not only financially (although that’s once place to start!)