Whether you have kids now or want them in the future, take a moment to think about what lessons you’d really like your kids to learn from you: And there’s tons to choose from! Good Self Esteem? Great Communication Skills? Business Acumen? Knowing that it’s ok to pursue their dreams? Diligence and Hard work? How the world really works? A good relationship with money? Generosity? Healthy Eating Habits? Philanthropy? All of the above?
What do you feel you’re able to pass onto them that you yourself are fully living by example? If you want happy kids, are you happy? If you really want healthy babies, how do you treat your own body? If you want them to be financially secure, are you modelling those behaviours?
We all want to be perfect parents and yes, we all try very hard. (I was such a perfect parent before I had kids!! Took just one to mess that delusion up! Now I’m just great at other people’s kids!)
Not surprisingly however, the very best things we can teach are children are by our own example. Not as it turns out, by getting them into the best schools, or running around cramming in loads of extra-curricular activities etc.
It’s only when we decide to truly embody a behaviour ourselves, that they can truly learn and model that for themselves. How scary is that? (I might have to start saving for their therapy sessions now!)
Are you acting in integrity with what you want your kids to become?